Comments on: When Dad Dies and You're Just a Kid

By: SoapB

SoapB — Thu, 07 May 2009 02:15:29 +0000

@taylor:

I’m so sorry to hear your story.

I didn’t cry (& people said the same thing to me about it meaning that I was strong) but I really wish I had let myself cry (even if it was when I was just by myself). It’s important to let your feelings out – whenever they happen to come.

I wrote a LOT – just in private journals in handwriting. And that helped me more than I can say. I wrote letters too (but didn’t mail them anywhere).

In retrospect, I wish I had had books to turn to (like “Healing Your Grieving Heart For Teens”). Now there are many available titles. Maybe one will speak to you.

There’s a classic book that explains the stages of grieving – it took me so many years to find it – called, “On Grief and Grieving” by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. Knowing the stages of grief helped me a great deal. It just helped to know that there’s a natural progression that we humans go through (but each in our own time).

My sympathies are with you & your family at this difficult (& likely confusing) time.

By: taylor

taylor — Thu, 07 May 2009 00:33:26 +0000

my father was killed in a motorcycle accident just two weeks ago.im also 15.its odd how i can relate to your touching story so much.i am the youngest, being only its just me and my sister who is a lot older than me. my family, which is very very large is still in deep mouring.my dad was known by everyone and just the heart of our family but i cant cry.im afraid people are thinking that i dont feel grief.but it just doesnt feel real. evreyone says they cant believe how strong im being but i just dont think i want to believe that its really true. what did you do when you were going thru this?

By: Sandy (Momisodes)

Sandy (Momisodes) — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 04:00:27 +0000

A beautiful tribute, sure to make any parent proud. My heart ached while reading about your childhood, and had me in tears throughout. Your strength and courage as an adult is truly inspiring. Thanks so much for sharing this story. Sandy (Momisodes)'s last blog post..So What If They’re Fake?

By: Eric "Speedcat Hollydale"

Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 09:51:45 +0000

Very well written and emotional post. I could feel my own heart open up as you told your story. You very eloquently described some of your inner-most feelings with your readers, and have gained my respect. Thank you for allowing us to see this very personal side of you, and how your life has transpired from tragedy. The positive spin at the end shows your strength, and loving qualities .... very admirable. Eric "Speedcat Hollydale"'s last blog post..The Traveling Loin Cloth

By: Deb (Missives From Suburbia)

Deb (Missives From Suburbia) — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 04:43:45 +0000

I read this with tears in my eyes, and when I finished, I found myself inexplicably jealous. Sitting with that for just a few moments, I realized why. You knew your father as Dad. Dad and Mom are two of the most magnificent creatures on Earth. I sometimes think it is a loss to grow up, become an adult, and examine our parents as peers. We often discover they are merely human and sometimes lacking. Your perspective on your father's death is a far cry from the one I have on mine, and I am sorry for your loss, but still somewhat... envious. Yes. (I would hug you now if I was telling you this in person, and I would probably be blubbering all over your blouse.) Deb (Missives From Suburbia)'s last blog post..Maul Me Elmo

By: LaskiGal

LaskiGal — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 20:21:11 +0000

What an amazing post. You revealed so much about not only yourself, but also about how children often cope with loss, with grief. The strength that emerges is often powerful . . . as in your case. Thanks for sharing.

By: Xbox4NappyRash

Xbox4NappyRash — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 21:59:19 +0000

Well written and honest piece.
I lost a parent as a child and so much of this is scarily familiar to me.

Best wishes.

By: Tara R.

Tara R. — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 21:19:40 +0000

Such a touching tribute to your father… beautifully done. Thanks for sharing this story.

By: Anne

Anne — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 18:32:53 +0000

This is such a beautifully written post. I can’t say much more than it left me in tears. Thank you for sharing that.

By: pete

pete — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 16:43:18 +0000

Ditto what Joe said, (except that I have two daughters).

My wife experienced the same thing when she was nine. I can relate to your story all too well, but only from that vantage point. Like others mention above, I’ve yet to lose anyone really close and I’m not sure how I’m going to handle it when the day comes.