Comments on: We Don’t Have to be Mother Teresa…

By: GraceReal

GraceReal — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 02:01:09 +0000

Reminds me of a book I read entitled “If Mama Aint Happy, Aint Nobody Happy”

By: Stephen

Stephen — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 17:42:43 +0000

Yep. You can’t help others unless you have something to give, and if you’re ‘given out’, you have to recharge first. Been there plenty of times as a dad, and I’m sure my wife gets that much more often.

By: melissa

melissa — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 01:51:22 +0000

you have to make time for yourself, most definitely! if you aren’t happy, then it is hard to keep a balance at home. you’re unhappiness is projected on to the kids and spouse and it has a spiral effect. so, in otherwards, i agree, completely! gosh, i need to get my hair colored…hmmm, that is considered taking care of oneself, right?;)

By: Graciel

Graciel — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 14:20:15 +0000

Perfectly said. It is the long- hidden secret to healthy families.

By: melody is Slurping Life

melody is Slurping Life — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 05:12:40 +0000

If a friend had suggested that I be Mother Theresa I would have laughed hysterically in her face.

I agree with all that you’ve written. It’s taken me a long time to realize that I must give myself time and care.

By: blessed1

blessed1 — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 03:37:29 +0000

I am so right there with ya. Amen sister! The saying at my house is (and my four year old has it down pat) :
“When momma’s not happy…noooo body’s happy!”

By: Veronica

Veronica — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 03:05:52 +0000

Great post! I agree with everything that you said. I can’t believe the person that gave the Mother Theresa quip.

By: BusyDad

BusyDad — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 16:32:51 +0000

I’m pretty much going to say the same thing as Joe, but here goes…

Don’t think of it as “lowering your standards” — think of it as accepting a short term loss (e.g. an hour less to play with your child) as a trade off for a long-term gain (e.g. a happier, more relaxed you, which rubs off on your entire family).

As much as I adore my kid. He knows that I need “Dad time” as well, whether it’s playing guitar, writing or just sitting around drinking a beer.

By: Joe

Joe — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 05:56:02 +0000

Agreed. Self first and here’s why. If you aren’t tip top guess who suffers? The kids and hubby. No one wants that. You need to take care of number 1. I mean, not self absorbed but no need to feel guilty ever.